“It’s not my favorite thing on the menu, but I’ll order it sometimes.” -Carrie Bradshaw, Sex and the City
On an episode of Sex and the City, Charlotte York was talking to her girlfriends about her reluctance to perform oral sex on her current boyfriend. All three of the girls agreed that, while giving oral isn’t as good as receiving, it’s something that must be done.
Performing oral sex doesn’t have to be a chore. Your man will surely appreciate the thought, and it makes for excellent foreplay. As Samantha Jones in Sex and the City famously exclaimed, “they don’t call it a ‘job’ for nothing!”
If you’re looking to reward your man this evening with some good oral sex, check out these sexy tips from real women.
Tips You Can’t Ignore
"My go-to move is sucking on the tip while also using my hand on the shaft. I’ll slowly bring my hand up and over the head, then put the tip in my mouth again as I bring my hand back down. It’s almost like that hand-over-hand massage technique, but it’s hand over mouth!" –Sarah H.
"When you’re focusing on the tip, don’t forget the underside of the head—it’s a really sensitive spot." —Malia G.
Keep Your Eye on the Ball(s)
"When he’s about to climax, I gently pull beneath to make him last a little bit longer. My boyfriend always says it makes it even more intense." —Elizabeth O.
"Just because it’s oral sex doesn’t mean you only use your mouth. Use your hands to hold at the base. And ball play is always fair play." —Carly H.
Never Let Him See You Sweat
"If I’m starting to get tired, or need a break to swallow my saliva (gross, but it happens), I slow down the speed. Once I’ve had a little break, I speed it up again. I think the change in tempo really feels good for him." —Natalie H.
"Any time my jaw or neck needs a break, I pull back and just focus on the tip. If you have plenty of lube or saliva, you can keep pumping with your hands while you circle, lick, and suck on the tip. Best of both worlds—for both of you!" —Anne G.
It Doesn’t Have to Be All About Him
"I sometimes add flavored lube when I’m giving oral sex. I think the lube makes it feel better for him, and it gives me something to enjoy, too." —Isabel J.
"I always think about how much he’s enjoying it—and how amazing he is at reciprocating—and it makes me really enjoy being on the giving end." —Lindsay P.
Communication is Sexy
"I make moaning noises while going down on him. It turns him on even more and lets him know I enjoy making him feel this good." —Margarite W.
"Ask what he likes. You’ll feel way more confident if you know the rhythm, speed, and little quirks that he prefers." —Melissa S.