According to many people, one of the worst feelings in the world comes when you think your partner might be cheating on you. A betrayal of trust and loyalty, being cheated on can lead to many health problems because of the related stress and anxiety, as well as the common loss of self-esteem.
Of course, just having to wonder can often cause similar symptoms and problems. This is especially the case if you think you might be acting paranoid or overreacting to changes in your relationship.
Get the facts straight for your sake and for the sake of your relationship. Learn these eight signs your partner is cheating on you:
1. His Or Her Appearances Suddenly Matter Again
People rarely change all of a sudden without having a reason. If your loved one suddenly goes from wearing sweat pants and never sweating to daily trips to the gym and dressing up even to just errands, it’s likely that something is going on.
In some cases, the change can be caused by circumstances like seeing a friend’s health fade fast due to obesity or starting a new class focused on getting your body back. But, if you can’t understand why your partner suddenly spends time working out, it might be time to pop the faithfulness question.
2. Your Partner Appears Distracted While Getting Intimate
Many people find that their cheating partner is actually more interested in sex or more willing to engage in sex when you initiate. The result of several possibilities- like guilt or being turned on by another person but unable to reach them immediately- sex with a cheating partner is rarely as intimate.
Often, the cheating partner will appear distracted even while engaged in intercourse that they initiated. Some unfaithful partners have even spoken their secret partner’s name accidentally while in the heat of the moment.
Do keep in mind that this sign, on its own, might also signal boredom with the same old sexual routine or another common sex problem.
3. He Or She Doesn’t Want To Share Details About The Day
In order to have an affair, your partner has to be spending time with another lover. That time gets taken away from other things. So, when you ask him or her about what the day was like, pay attention for missing gaps of time.
Are suspicious that a listed activity didn’t take as long as suggested –like 3 hours at the gym…really? Ask for details about the workout and what it was like. It’s hard to lie about details on the spot!
4. He Or She Over-Explains Frequently
At the same time, pay attention to your partner’s excuses. Few cheaters are able to not feel guilty or paranoid. As a result, many cheaters over-explain when giving excuses for time spent away, missing money in the bank account, etc. Listen to that excessive explanation and check up on those details.
5. The Bills Go Up, But Circumstances Haven’t Changed
Just like time goes missing when a partner is cheating, so does money. Chances are your partner tries to hide this fact by withdrawing money at ATMS, opening secret accounts, or never letting you see how much he or she really makes. There is no hiding certain bills though –like money spent on gas or all the cents that go towards calls with the lover.
6. Taking Your Calls While “Away” Seems Like A Burden
Speaking of calls, it’s unreasonable to assume that your partner can answer yours’ all the time. However, he or she should be able to answer or call back often. Your love should also be able to chat for a while, not just a few hushed minutes!
7. Talking About Your Relationship Feels Fake
When you do talk to your partner, you should be able to talk about your relationship. Even if discussing your love is uncomfortable or leads to an argument, you should be able to talk.
A partner who only wants to get out of talking or to make easy peace is likely sustaining your relationship by talking with and getting satisfaction from someone else. There may be other causes of the emotional distance, so be sure that other signs are happening as well.
8. A Sudden Interest Is Taken In Your Plans And Whereabouts
It’s odd when your partner doesn’t want to talk with you about serious subjects like your relationship, but wants to know about where you will be and when. This is often a signal that your partner is trying to organize their affair in such a way that you won’t notice his or her absence as much.
Secrecy takes effort! Try changing plans that your partner knows about without telling your partner first and you might just discover why he or she was so interested in your whereabouts to begin with.