Want to build the best relationship of your life? Then try some of these tips to create healthy relationships. There are a few relationship success secrets to keep in mind.
When you see your relationship going south or would like to build the best relationship of your life from scratch, there are plenty of things to keep in mind. For one, relationships are a two way street, and you won’t find it easy to manipulate the other side. All you can do is make sure that you are doing your personal best to set the scenes for smooth sailing.
Here’s a list of tips to build loving relationships:
1. Stop Asking Others For Advice
Just because you asked another’s opinion about something in your own relationship doesn’t mean that the answer always applies to you. There’s a reason why there is a role such as a “judge.” There may be an exact way of doing things, but the judge is there to take into consideration all unique viewpoints and circumstances in order to reach a reasonable verdict for each situation on a case-by-case basis. What works for some, doesn’t work for others.
This type of personalization is needed to fully understand what your relationship needs or does not need. Even a trained psychologist or marriage counselor may give you advice, but only you know what is right for you in the relationship. So treat each relationship as a unique case.
2. Be Comforting Instead Of Calling Out Their Mistakes
If you make a trivial mistake, do you want others to punish you for it? Certainly not. In fact, building arguments around trivial mistakes or human error is just setting yourself up for failure. So, talk like you are facing a human being not a robot.
3. Notice When They Are Happy And Sad
It’s your job to take notice of them. You may be exactly what they need to feel alright. It’s human nature to want to share your feelings with others, and this power of sharing and feeling connected is what drives all relationships. So when they are sad, listen if they want to talk about it. If they are bursting with joy over a new accomplishment, be sure to acknowledge this as something for both of you to celebrate.
4. Remember That Crossing Boundaries Leads To An Unhealthy Relationships
Any negative energy you invite into your relationship remains. Even if you try to build trust back up, if you’ve crossed boundaries in the past, it may feel like you’re walking backwards uphill. Instead, know that any meanness, any blame, or nasty arguments leave you both with a sour taste in mouth. Try as you may, these things aren’t so easily forgotten, and it’s like opening the floodgates to repeat this behavior in the future.
5. Set Your Sights On Joint Goals To Accomplish
Some relationships fail because each person’s goals tend to drift in opposite directions. Even if you both have separate overall life goals, never forget to keep those joint efforts in mind. This means the compass always points in the direction of a successful future.
6. See Them For Who They Are, Not Who You Want To See
Most people create a fantasy of their partner in mind. Yet the reality is not always true to this image. The trick is to embrace the person already standing there. They need to be loved for all the amazing things they are in truth. By choosing to look at the reality, you begin to see all the good things they love about themselves — those things in which they would like you to take notice of instead.
7. Don’t Allow Yourself To Take Center Stage
Any good relationship always possesses one thing to allow it to stand the test of time. That is, any great relationship shares center stage. Not that you are both always standing out there soaking up the affection from the other person and an audience of onlookers, but you each take turns. There is no star of the show. When you look at the reality of life, things are not always perfect.
Each person goes through periods of time where stress is high. Relationships often fail when one person lives day by day at center stage, while the other one is struggling behind the scenes. The best relationships reciprocate by comforting the other person in their time of need.
8. Apologize When You Act Out Of Character
Not every day of your life is going to be peachy-keen or a-ok. Sometimes, you just don’t have the time, patience, or energy to be a good human and accommodate others’ needs. People tend to take your change in attitude personally, but it’s easiest just to say you’re sorry (and mean it) to resolve the petty friction. Problem solved.