Relationships are great to be in, but they can be difficult to maintain. Relationships come in all shapes and sizes and blossom in different ways, but they all need to be nurtured and cared for to insure that they will withstand the test of time. Not all relationships are created alike, but there are a few key elements that exist in all successful relationships. Not sure if your relationship is on the right foot? Here are ten ways to have a healthy and satisfying relationship!
One of the most important aspects of any healthy relationships is active communication. Nine times out of ten, the common denominator behind breakups is a lack of communication. Being able to talk with your significant other about things going on in your life and how you feel are important. And this is not limited to verbal communication – learning and knowing how to respond to each other’s body language is of extreme importance as well. Understanding how to talk to your significant other is the difference between the life and death of your relationship.
2. Learn To Adapt
The longer you are with someone, the more you will witness their gradual change as a person. The important thing for you to do is make sure that don’t allow these changes to draw you to apart, rather than closer together. Whether it be an illness, weight gain, children, or financial changes, don’t let the pressures of the world around you impact the way you see the person you are in a relationship or spending the rest of your life with. Allow these changes to mold and shape the both or you, drawing you two closer together as a couple.
3. Quality Time
This concept would seem to be pretty obvious to some, but a number of couples seem to miss the mark on this concept as well. If you only talk to someone on the phone or see someone once a month, how do you think a solid relationship would form? It is so important to take time to focus on each other without any kind of distractions. If you two are dating, try to get together at least once a week or every two weeks. If you are married, make sure to try and at least sit and watch a movie together or play a game, and then have a date night every other week or once a month. Make the time and effort for the person you love!
4. Time Apart
As important as it is to do things together as a couple, it is also important to make sure you guys can have a few moments apart. Yes, you guys are a couple, but that doesn’t mean that you will always see eye-to-eye or you two will always have the same interests. Allow each other to remain individuals in your relationships by allowing each other some time to explore their own interests and be an individual for a while. Then you will be able to return to your significant other feeling refreshed and ready to engage with them.
Lack of respect in a relationship can negatively affect a relationship as a whole and the people in it individually. If your significant other calls you names, belittles your accomplishments, makes negative comments about them to other people, or even emotionally or physically abuses you, your relationship lacks respect and you need to figure out whether or not it is worth it anymore. If someone truly loves and cares for you, they will respect your time, values, trust, and body. If that person does not value you, they are not the person you need to be with.
In any relationship, appreciation is something that everyone wants. When you go to work, your boss shows their appreciation by giving you a check or bonus, when you donate to certain charities, they express appreciation by giving you a tax write-off. So when you go home, your significant other should express appreciation to you by doing things like cooking you dinner, rubbing your feet, or just giving you a nice, long hug. Expressing how much you appreciate your spouse being in your life will make them feel good and more willing to do those same things for you!
You were already vulnerable once by telling your significant other how you feel about them, so that should be enough, right? Wrong! Being vulnerable means being open and honest with another person about who you are – every tragic event, quirk, or embarrassing situation that has ever occurred in your life is up for discussion. Revealing yourself to another person is one of the most intimate things you can do with someone else. Your significant other will appreciate you for it and be willing to open up to you as well.
8. Pick Your Battles
Arguments are going to occur in relationships – it’s only natural. However, not every argument deserves attention. Sometimes you just have to learn to let things go. If there is an argument over something serious like a bill or the status of your relationship, then go ahead and argue away! But bickering over your significant other taking too much time in the bathroom doesn’t count as a worthy argument.
When it comes to any kind of relationship, whether professional or romantic, boundaries are important. If there are certain things that your significant other, best friend, ect. doesn’t like you doing, you should care about them enough to not do that. If you know that your wife or husband does not like yelling, don’t yell at them during an argument just to get an edge. Or perhaps your best friend doesn’t like your music taste – you won’t listen to that music around them, will you? When you truly love and care for someone, there are certain things you will and will not do for them – and that’s just that.
10. Comparisons Stop
When you’re in a relationship, you have to remember that everyone’s story is different and no two relationships are just alike. Never try to compare your relationship or significant other to that of someone else’s! You’ll be so worried about their grass that you’ll stop watering your own and mess up your relationship! Leave them to their devices and focus on growing a relationship that others can envy – not you.